How to Make Time for Yourself When You Don't Have the Time

I recently saw a post on Instagram that stated:

I screenshotted it for some later contemplation, but honestly forgot about the whole thing. Then, a few days later, I was listening to a podcast when one of the speakers basically said that you should never dread Monday mornings. If you're not excited for your week to start, you're doing it (aka life) wrong. 

So...stop waiting for the weekend and get down and dirty with Monday mornings? Ha! Biggest freaking joke in my book (have I mentioned I am SO not a morning person? Though I wrote about how to turn yourself into one here...). 

Okay, so I kid a bit but...isn't this a habit that comes naturally to us? I know that I'm constantly waiting for something. Right now, it's graduation. I'm kind of over the whole college thing at the moment, but afterwards I'll be waiting until I find the perfect job. Then until Richard gets out of college (two years after me, since I'm graduating a year early and his program is extended). Then until we can get an apartment. And a puppy. And...you get it. We're always waiting for something better and more exciting to come along. 

But what if we weren't? What if we practiced making time for ourselves and doing what we love (which, let's face it, is what the weekend is really about) on a daily basis?

Hallelujah to that. 

Also, did anyone else know that April is official Stress Awareness Month? I wasn't aware of it when I started drafting this post, but now it seems even more fitting to chat and share some tips!

P.S. I'm sharing about making time for yourself below, which is closely related to de-stressing, but I did also write a full-fledged post on that specific topic here.  

So, let's get into it shall we?

My version of "me time" involves shopping for knick knacks like this cute little panda lip balm :)

My version of "me time" involves shopping for knick knacks like this cute little panda lip balm :)

1. Unplug

Too obvious? Well, it's easier said than done. I feel like I know the struggle of putting down social media all too well, especially since engaging on these channels is a legitimate part of my job. In this day and age, it's very easy to get caught up in people that we don't know and events that we're not attending. Overusing social media or using social media inappropriately (i.e. at the dinner table) is something that almost everyone does in some way, shape or form. Richard always serves as a check on my use of social media, because he's not afraid to call me out when I'm being antisocial because of it. Whether you have someone who's unafraid to call you out on your B.S. or not, check yourself every once in awhile. It's absolutely okay to want to update your channels on a regular basis (ya'll know I do), but force yourself to take breaks! I often find myself lusting over other people's lives and experiencing serious social media FOMO when I could be using that time to dedicate towards something I truly want to do, just for myself.

Also, according to this source, adults 18-34 typically spend over 3.5 hours on social media per day. Posting does NOT take up this much time, and scrolling through your Facebook feed does NOT count as making time for yourself. Take one of those hours that would be spent on social media and do something for YOU, that is going to have real benefits in YOUR life. 

2. Plan Ahead

Procrastination? Just don't do it. Plan out what you need to get done ahead of time (you guys know how much I love to-do lists), and get it done ASAP. With the task done, you don't have to feel guilty carving out some "me time." 

3. Delegate

This is a tricky one for me, because I can be a bit of a control freak. I'm very critical of my own work, yet I won't let anyone else help because I still think I will do a better job. This can be a very stressful and time consuming habit, so don't be afraid to ask others for help. Whether it be at work, school or wherever in life, it's okay to let someone else take the reins for once or, at the very least, pick up some small jobs. You don't need to do everything on your own. 

Guilty pleasure!

Guilty pleasure!

4. PRIORITIZE

Make yourself a priority! You can't be your most efficient self if you're constantly stressed and/or overworked. Build some free time into your schedule now, and appreciate the benefits that both your work and your overall mental health will reap later. 

5. SAY NO

It's not always easy to say no and, once again, a lot of us suffer from some serious FOMO. It's okay to be outgoing and willing to take on whatever comes your way, but know how to say no. The best way to do this is by weighing the pros and cons of whatever situation you're considering getting yourself into. If the list of cons is longer than the list of pros, you need to decline. The opposite is also true. If there's an overwhelming number of pros to a commitment, go for it! A lot of people forget to actually analyze before saying yes though, which can lead to a lot of overwhelm later on. 

6. FAKE IT

Sometimes there just aren't enough hours in the day, and forcing yourself to take a break may even result in added pressure. These are the times when you've just got to fake it until you make it. If you've got a lot to do on the computer, light a candle or set up an oil diffuser to create a spa-like environment. Have to finish reading for a class? Do it in a hot bath with some of your favorite, special occasion bath bombs. You might not be able to find time to relax uninterrupted, but you can trick yourself into feeling a bit more relaxed while still getting whatever it is that you need to get done done. 

What's your guys' fave way to take a break? Do you see the value in making time for yourself, or are you all about hustling your way through it? I'm curious, so sound off in the comments!

xx,

Holly